5 Ways to Stop Little Things From Becoming Big Things

So often we can work through the challenges of daily living effortlessly. Sometimes, though, little problems or small inconveniences build up and can make it difficult to manage our emotions. Recently I helped a friend care for her mini farm while she was out of town. In addition to dogs and a cat, her small … More 5 Ways to Stop Little Things From Becoming Big Things

Feel Lonely? Moving from Loneliness to Connectedness

Everyone feels lonely sometimes. Loneliness may feel like a gnawing emptiness and trigger an overwhelming emotional response resulting in anxiety and depression. Social isolation often causes loneliness, however, many people feel lonely or rejected when surrounded by other people. Others may experience pain from their perceived disconnection from others. In 1949 Hank Williams, Sr. wrote … More Feel Lonely? Moving from Loneliness to Connectedness

4 Ways to Discover And Nurture Your True Self

“If you can’t remember when you last basked in your own glow, it means you’re overdue.” ― Gina Greenlee, Postcards and Pearls: Life Lessons from Solo Moments on the Road We are bombarded daily with strident messages telling us what to think, what to believe, what to be. In the midst of the frenetic media … More 4 Ways to Discover And Nurture Your True Self

Reducing Anxiety in Children

In this technological age of instant news and social media at our fingertips, children are bombarded daily with news of school shootings, bombings, war, nuclear threats, genocide, and political extremism. At school and in their neighborhoods children experience peer pressure, bullying, and social isolation. As a result there is a continued increase in the diagnosis … More Reducing Anxiety in Children

Create a Life Worth Living: Finding your why

, When people reach the point where they feel that there is no hope that things will get better or they feel that they have exhausted every option in an attempt to solve the problems they face daily, hopelessness grows. Unchecked, hopelessness fuels self-harm, addictions, and suicide. Life has become so unmanageable that it no … More Create a Life Worth Living: Finding your why

On Being or Acting As If

Or, fake it until you make it. Change is difficult. Smoothing out old patterns and creating new pathways doesn’t happen overnight. But is there danger in faking it? Yes, and no. When we use affirmations, we affirm statements that are how we want life to be. “I am healthy, strong, and fit.” We may not … More On Being or Acting As If

Dealing with Emotions: An Analogy

Sometimes you don’t want to deal with emotions. Sometimes you need to wait until you have more time to process. Sometimes you hope that they will just go away. Waiting until you have time alone to think things through or holding onto the emotions to share at your next counseling appointment can be a healthy … More Dealing with Emotions: An Analogy

6 Ways to Survive the Dog Days of Summer

August has arrived and brought extreme heat to the Pacific Northwest. We are not accustomed to triple digit temperatures in this region of the country. There is evidence that extreme temperatures can affect mood, and high heat can increase aggression. According to research, intergroup conflicts increase by 14% while interpersonal violence increases 4% during peak … More 6 Ways to Survive the Dog Days of Summer

A Cup Full of Self-Compassion: Kindness Challenge Reflection

Is your cup half empty or half full? More important than how full is your cup, is WHAT is your cup filled with? There have been times in my life where my cup has been filled with negative thoughts, poor self image, and painful memories. When our cups are filled with negativity, self-compassion is impossible. … More A Cup Full of Self-Compassion: Kindness Challenge Reflection

Kindness Challenge Reflection: Self-Love

Self-love can be a difficult thing to find when you have spent your life feeling “less than.” A history of traumatic events can lead a person to erect a concrete wall around their heart. Love for others is difficult, but love of self can become nearly impossible. Short of breaking out a jack hammer, how … More Kindness Challenge Reflection: Self-Love