7 Tips for Talking to Children About Mass Shootings

With great sadness I read of another mass shooting. 58 people have been confirmed dead and hundreds more were injured in the Las Vegas shooting on Sunday, October 1, 2017. As adults, it’s difficult to understand the hows and the whys of these events. For children, it’s even more difficult. Young children, under the age … More 7 Tips for Talking to Children About Mass Shootings

On Being or Acting As If

Or, fake it until you make it. Change is difficult. Smoothing out old patterns and creating new pathways doesn’t happen overnight. But is there danger in faking it? Yes, and no. When we use affirmations, we affirm statements that are how we want life to be. “I am healthy, strong, and fit.” We may not … More On Being or Acting As If

Dealing with Emotions: An Analogy

Sometimes you don’t want to deal with emotions. Sometimes you need to wait until you have more time to process. Sometimes you hope that they will just go away. Waiting until you have time alone to think things through or holding onto the emotions to share at your next counseling appointment can be a healthy … More Dealing with Emotions: An Analogy

Total Eclipse of Life

  Oregon is in the path of totality, which sounds ominous. Discussion of the impending eclipse has ranged from a party-like excitement to a deep wariness. There are many situations in life that bring untimely darkness, much like the upcoming solar eclipse. The death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or losing … More Total Eclipse of Life

6 Actions to Increase Self-Love

Self-love can be a difficult thing to find when you have spent your life feeling “less than.” A history of traumatic events can lead a person to erect a concrete wall around their heart. Love for others is difficult, but love of self can become nearly impossible. Short of breaking out a jack hammer, how … More 6 Actions to Increase Self-Love

6 Ways to Survive the Dog Days of Summer

August has arrived and brought extreme heat to the Pacific Northwest. We are not accustomed to triple digit temperatures in this region of the country. There is evidence that extreme temperatures can affect mood, and high heat can increase aggression. According to research, intergroup conflicts increase by 14% while interpersonal violence increases 4% during peak … More 6 Ways to Survive the Dog Days of Summer

Embracing Radical Self-Acceptance

One of my favorite DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy) concepts is Radical Acceptance. It speaks to accepting something as it is, right now. Radical Acceptance reminds me of the title of an old movie ‘The Good, The Bad, The Ugly.”  It’s about letting go, not fighting against what is, and allowing things to be as they … More Embracing Radical Self-Acceptance

A Cup Full of Self-Compassion: Kindness Challenge Reflection

Is your cup half empty or half full? More important than how full is your cup, is WHAT is your cup filled with? There have been times in my life where my cup has been filled with negative thoughts, poor self image, and painful memories. When our cups are filled with negativity, self-compassion is impossible. … More A Cup Full of Self-Compassion: Kindness Challenge Reflection

Kindness Challenge Reflection: Self-Love

Self-love can be a difficult thing to find when you have spent your life feeling “less than.” A history of traumatic events can lead a person to erect a concrete wall around their heart. Love for others is difficult, but love of self can become nearly impossible. Short of breaking out a jack hammer, how … More Kindness Challenge Reflection: Self-Love